Dating is a lot like prospecting for gold. You have to have the right equipment. You spend a lot of time sifting through sand and muck to find a few pieces of gold. Then you have to sort through the flecks still in the pan to see if it is real gold or just fool’s gold.
I’ve been doing a lot of prospecting since my divorce. I’ve signed up on dating websites. I’ve let my friends and acquaintances know I’m single and available.
I spend a few hours a week sifting through emails and profile pages, the sand and muck of dating.
I sift through looking for the men who are real gold. I spend time emailing them before giving them my cell phone number. Texts and phone calls are dating precursors. Shaking, always shaking the pan, sifting out the sand and muck.
Then there are the dates with the men who seem like potential gold. But are they real gold, or just fool’s gold?
The problem with fool’s gold is that it looks a lot like gold. More than one prospector has been embarrassed thinking they’d found real gold when they really just had a big chunk of fool’s gold. Every dater knows that feeling, too. You think you’ve found someone golden, only to realize that they’re just fool’s gold.
So, what’s a dater to do? The first thing you do when you find a nugget is smell it. Real gold has no smell. Fool’s gold smells like sulfur. Trust your senses when you are prospecting for men, too. If you spend enough time with them, your senses will know the difference between the real men and the fool’s gold.
The second test every prospector knows is to check the malleability of the nugget. If you bite it, and it leaves teeth marks, it’s real gold. Fool’s gold is brittle, but real gold is easily indented. So, go ahead and give it a little nibble to see if it’s real gold or fool’s gold.
I’m enjoying the nibbling right now. Enjoying the process of figuring out who is fool’s gold and who is real gold. Most people will show you pretty quickly which kind of gold they are.
Believe people when they tell you who they are. If someone admits to being fool’s gold, no matter how much they look like real gold, believe them. Nobody lies about being fool’s gold.
Question: How do you separate the fool’s gold from the real gold in your love life?